Dear Tammy,
My husband and I don’t connect like we used to. We have been together for over 15 years, two small kids and it feels like we are in a rut. We don’t do anything together and put all of our energies into work and our kids. What do you suggest to help us before this goes to far?
Jamie G.
Hello Jamie,
What you are experiencing is all too common.
Many couples get into a rut when they don’t focus on nurturing the relationship in addition to their own self care, and parenting/family time. It is a fine balance in this world where we are all too busy as it is. First and foremost, make time for each other.
The less time you spend together the farther apart you will drift. Secondly, make it good quality time. Not just sitting side by side on the couch watching TV, but talking, laughing, having fun, interacting. Try going for walks, going for a coffee and take turns planning date times together. Hope this helps!
Hi Tammy,
I have a lot going on in my life right now. I am moving, started dating a new guy and will have a new roommate. This morning I woke up with a panicky feeling. I feel like the stuff that is going on in my life is positive. Is this normal?
Sophie T.
Hi Sophie,
This is definitely normal. Panic feelings aren’t always related to negative feelings.
We experience panic when we are feeling overwhelmed too. You legitimately have a lot going on in your life that can attribute to these feelings.
Take a step back and try to re-evaluate. Is there anything that you can change so that you can make some of what’s happening now more manageable? It could be just talking to your boyfriend about your feelings. Or maybe getting all of the moving arrangements taken care of in advance instead of last minute.
Time for change
Looks like summer is finally on its way!
Everyone naturally feels better with the sun out and the birds chirping. Be sure that you continue to address the areas in your life that may need some change, and don’t just shelf it until the winter.
The longer you wait, the harder it will be to change the issue at hand.
If you feel you need someone to talk to or help getting through the winter blues or to set new goals for yourself feel free to contact Tammy @ [email protected] or 403-969-7409. I am available to work with you to overcome the obstacles you may face in life.
